work colleagues and I got in an argument. I complete understand their reasoning behind “Don’t do the thing”. I’m even happy not to do the thing. I care how you ask me not to do it.
Opal, please don’t do the thing for these reasons. - this is a good way
Opal, I know you enjoy the thing, and really, I do to, but unfortunately we can’t do the thing because of reasons. - also good
Hey, sorry, you know the thing? We can’t do it. Here’s some reasons. - good!
See previous facebook post about forbidden thing. Don’t do forbidden thing. Opal, see above. - not helpful. It’s vague and grumpy.
If you don’t want me to do the thing, just say so. Be clear and kind; I will happily agree with you. Be harsh and vague and I’ll resent the heck out of you (and bitch about you on tumblr).